The one where I chime in about leggings
I didn’t even want to honor this topic with a post, but as I was listening to conference talks this morning, this one came on. I couldn’t not share.
Here’s to being a little less judgmental and a little more understanding, kind, and loving.
There are so many bigger problems than leggings. Like members feeling left out, looked down on, and inadequate.
I have opinions about modesty. But to me, modesty is about the way you live your life. And living a modest life includes respecting yourself and those around you, but most importantly, loving your Heavenly Father.
You shouldn’t choose your clothes based on who might be looking at you, but based on your desire to prove to God, every single day, that you love him and you’ll do what he asks you to do.
That also means you shouldn’t tell other people what to wear because you know best. Everyone has a very personal relationship with God. Let them talk to him about what to wear.
Instead, we should all focus on ourselves, and on showing others that God loves them.
When others feel the love of God, they’re more likely to listen to his guidance and counsel, right?
So let’s be done with the posts that are pulling people down, let’s be done arguing over what not to wear.
What They Won’t Tell You About Having Them Come Home
Ok dear friends, it’s time for this post.
Before I say anything else, let me start with this.
Randy and I are very much in love. Things are delightful, we love spending time together and having him home is the best thing in the world.
But having him home was also incredibly hard.
That sounds super ridiculous, right? I mean, we just spent 2 years apart, we should be OVERJOYED to be together again. And we were. But that doesn’t mean it’s easy.
We spent 2 years making new friends, meeting new people, living in two different countries, figuring out how to communicate with email and letters, growing up, making goals, having happy and sad experiences. And we got really good at doing all that. There were days when I actually LIKED having a missionary. It was never easy, but it got comfortable. Routine.
Then he came home.
We had to figure out how to communicate instantly, with words and tones and body language. Talk about weird.
I had to try and introduce him to new friends that knew a different part of me, and he had to introduce me to mission companions that meant the world to him.
I had to try to explain twerking (RIGHT?!?!?!) and why everyone is obsessed with Frozen.
He had to try to explain companionship inventory and couldn’t remember words in English.
So here are a few things that I wish I had known about having a missionary come home:
1. It’s ok to feel overwhelmed. They’ll feel overwhelmed, you’re going to be overwhelmed. Just enjoy what you can when you can. The overwhelmed parts will fade away soon enough.
2. It’s ok to fight. I think Randy and I were both so nervous about fighting that it only made tension worse. Couples fight! It’s ok!
3. It’s ok to not want to be together constantly. Randy and I loved being together, but for some people a little space is crucial! Don’t feel bad!
4. It’s ok to want to be lame. I felt dumb for wanting to stay in and cook dinner together instead of rushing out to parties and movies and dances. But honestly, it’s ok to sit down and chat for hours. I promise!
5. It’s ok to be different. I was so worried we weren’t adjusting the same way my friends, and their cousins, and their sisters best friends brother in law had adjusted. It’s ok to be different from everyone you see blogging and on Facebook!
6. It’s ok if it doesn’t work out the way you wanted. This is hard for so many people. For Randy and I, we’re dating and it’s been working out just fine. For other people, it doesn’t work or takes longer to get figured out. Sometimes things change and plans change, and all of that is ok.
7. It’s ok to communicate. There were some things that were bothering me and I didn’t want to bring them up, I didn’t want to offend Randy. In the long run, it’s better to have a conversation than a fight later.
8. It’s ok if it’s not ok. There are days when just straight up, having a brand new missionary in your life is hard. And it’s hard for you to be in their life too. Just trust me when I say that the bad days pass and better days are ahead! There are still perfect moments in misunderstood days, and it’ll all work out how it should.
9. It’s ok. In the end. It will be fine. That much is absolutely certain!
So maybe that’s a downer, but I want it to be a glimpse at reality. Too many girls post that everything is 100% perfect right when their missionary gets home, which might be the case for them. For me, it was a little bit of an adjustment, one that I’m so happy we made and got through. But still.
Come what may and love it, right?
Happy Saturday everyone!
Here’s to making time and space
Black and White Photos
On Remember To Breathe
2015 so far…
Hello, where have I been? If the past week is any indication of what the rest of of 2015 will be like, I have a crazy year ahead!
Too busy to take pictures or update the blog, so here’s what I have for ya today!
A look at 2015 reallll quick.
A glimpse at my perfect New Year’s Eve that included dinner at the Low’s, hanging out with my fam, Fresh Market Chocolate Chip Cookies, Wendy’s chicken nuggets, and falling asleep during a movie so Randy had to wake me up for midnight. Pretty great if you ask me!
The last first day of school. I’m not sure how it crept up on me like this, but I am so excited for what this semester has in store! I’m taking some final classes for my major, a religion class, and my last class for my minor! It’s insane!
So far 2015 has seen me doing lots of reading and Netflix watching, but also lots of scripture study, homework, cooking, time with Randy and other people that I care about, all in all it’s been a great year so far! Can’t wait to see what else is ahead!
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A whole year, come and gone. What a roller coaster of a year it was. I had lots of adventures, worked hard, and loved (almost) every minute of it.
I remember last New Year’s Eve very vividly. It wasn’t a great one to be perfectly honest. There were lots of changes happening in my life, things bringing me down. I was a little worried that was how my year was going to be. And while 2014 wasn’t perfect, there were so many picture perfect moments.
I only have time to share a few here, or we’d be here for another year;) But my whole year is cataloged right there on the right in neat little blog posts under the year 2014.
SO this year found me chugging through school and absolutely loving my classes, changing my minor to Digital Humanities, doing an internship at KSL, working at KSL and at BYU Radio, spending a fun summer in Provo where I finished the hardest class in my major, and then had a blast doing all the summer things there are to do in a college town, watched several of my good friends get married and was a bridesmaid for a few, saw the Grand Canyon, spent a blissful two weeks in California and Disneyland with my amazing family, headed to Boston (officially my favorite city in the US) for a way fun week with my family and helping my brother and sister-in-law move in, found dozens of new places to eat, became more of a grownup with rent and bills and buying big things for myself, discovered my love for the Food Network, became better friends with people who turned out to be my people, had incredible wards and callings I loved, kept blog-friendships going strong, celebrated holidays and weekends with my family, dated some non-Randys, missed that missionary more than words can describe, and then had him come home to me. I learned about myself, about my Savior Jesus Christ, about my family, and about who I can become.
Yeah, you could say 2014 has been a good year.
I will honor Christmas and try to keep it in my heart all year
Elder Low’s Surprise Homecoming
Here it is, a moment I’ll never forget.
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